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Bob Menendez’s wife was reported missing to cops by her other lover during secret trip with senator

When indicted Sen. Bob Menendez first began dating his current wife, she vanished for a week — and was declared a missing person by cops because her other lover feared for her safety.

Nadine Arslanian left the lights on and TVs blaring at her Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey, home without even her children knowing where she was, The Post has learned.

And she left a “weird” typewritten note on the door for the man she was casually dating, that lover told The Post.

Arslanian and Menendez married in 2020 after a romance that began when she was already dating another man. At the start of her relationship with the now-indicted Democrat, she vanished for a week. Senator Bob Menendez / Instagram

She then secretly flew for a week-long assignation with Menendez, the New Jersey Democratic senator, in the Dominican Republic in the spring of 2018.

Arslanian, 57, and Menendez, 70, married in 2020 and are now indicted on charges of selling his office to New Jersey businessmen for cash, gold bars and a car, and conspiring to act as secret agents of the Egyptian and Qatari governments.

Both of them strongly deny the accusations. Menendez will go on trial in federal court in Manhattan on May 13 and Arslanian will have a separate trial in July.

In the spring of 2018, Arslanian was newly involved with the senator and still in an on-again, off-again relationship with lawyer Douglas Anton.

Anton told The Post that she had dropped by his Hackensack, NJ, law office while he was assembling furniture one Thursday and the two had agreed to meet later that evening at her Englewood Cliffs home.

Arslanian was also casually dating attorney Doug Anton (right) when she first started her relationship with Menendez. She sparked Anton’s concern when she arranged a date with him, then vanished. New York Post

“I texted her, but instead of blue, the text went green,” said Anton, a former attorney for disgraced musician R. Kelly, adding that he grew increasingly alarmed when he arrived at her home and saw a note affixed to her front door.

“My love, I’m going away to see my girlfriend last minute as I need some time to de-stress. Be back Monday. Love you,” the note said. The note was typed, which Anton said he found “weird.”

New Jersey Sen. Bob Menendez is facing federal corruption charges related to an alleged years-long scheme.

Menendez allegedly accepted bribes, including gold bars, in exchange for helping three businessmen, Wael Hana, Jose Uribe and Fred Daibes, and the country of Egypt, according to officials.

Menendez and his wife, Nadine, were charged with taking hundreds of thousands in bribes, according to a Manhattan federal indictment.

When the feds raided Menendez’s Englewood Cliffs home in June 2022, they found a 2019 Mercedes C-Class, at least 13 gold bars, and $566,000 in cash “stuffed in envelopes.” Another $70,000 in cash was found in Nadine’s safe deposit box. 

Sen. Bob Menendez (D-NJ) and his wife, Nadine Menendez, were indicted on federal corruption charges. AP

The feds say Menendez also received mortgage payments and paid for a low-show or no-show job and home furnishings.

This isn’t the first time the Democrat is facing federal corruption charges. In 2015, Menendez was accused of taking gifts from Florida eye surgeon Salomon Melgen.

The “gifts” included a Paris vacation, flights on a private jet, and vacations at Melgen’s villa in the Dominican Republic.

Anton said he wasn’t too upset because he was also dating someone else at the time, “and the idea of a Nadine-free weekend was rather appealing.”

But when she didn’t return on Monday, he began to worry, he told The Post, adding that he called her sister, her adult children and friends, “who also had no idea where she was, that she left, and were very concerned.” Her sister insisted he call police, Anton said.

“It wasn’t like her to do this, and days went by, so I went to the cops,” he said.

Police were called to Nadine Arslanian’s Englewood Cliffs home, where they found two televisions blaring and the lights on in the spring of 2018 while she was on a romantic getaway with Menendez. Christopher Sadowski

The home in Bergen County is also where the FBI found these and other gold bars when agents raided it in June 2022. AP

“I did a missing persons report, and they had to come to the house to check to make sure that someone didn’t kill her and put her in a closet.”

Police found the lights on as well as televisions blaring in the living room and a bedroom, according to, citing records obtained from the Englewood Cliffs Police Department.

Arslanian was found several days later, Anton said.

“On the flight back from the DR, she could not get on the plane and had to call for a government check,” Anton told The Post.

“That’s when he [Menendez] first found out we were still ‘seeing’ each other on and off during the week when he was in DC. She later said he freaked out and was p–sed.”

A golf course in Casa de Campo on the Caribbean coast in the Dominican Republic where Sen. Robert Menendez traveled with a companion at the expense of his benefactor Palm Beach eye doctor Salomon Melgen. CASA de CAMPO

The couple were in Punta Cana, a seaside town in the Dominican Republic. The town is a short drive from Casa de Campo, an exclusive resort where Menendez had been a frequent guest of his former benefactor, Salomon Melgen.

Menendez was indicted for corruption alongside the Palm Beach eye doctor in 2015. His trial resulted in a hung jury, and he and Melgen were acquitted of some of the bribery charges.

When Arslanian was on the plane, she called police to say she was safe and asked them to send Anton a message to stay away from her, according to

She returned to the US on a Thursday, a week after she had first “disappeared,” said Anton.

Menendez’s last set of corruption allegations saw him accused of receiving lavish hospitality from Dr. Salomon Melgen (right) at his luxury near to Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. Arslanian was contacted by cops at Punta Cana airport. guteni

“She finally landed and blew up my phone, came right to my house to explain, crying and to apologize,” Anton said.

“I asked her, ‘Why did you do that?’” said Anton. “It was more about Bob wanting to be incognito.”

When police returned to Arslanian’s home for a follow-up visit, they found her there along with Wael Hana, an Egyptian-American businessman, who is now one of her two co-defendants, reported.

He and the other co-accused, Fred Daibes, have also pleaded not guilty. A third man, Jose Uribe, pleaded guilty and is cooperating with prosecutors.

Arslanian and Menendez’s attorneys did not respond to requests for comment.

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